As summer approaches, we often feel mounting pressure to achieve the perfect "beach body." It's that time of year when we start scrualways to lovetinising ourselves, feeling like we must fit into a specific mould to feel worthy of sunshine and swimsuits. But let’s get one thing straight: this is utter nonsense. We are enough just as we are.

The Myth of the "Beach Body"

The idea that you need a specific type of body to enjoy the beach is not only harmful but also completely untrue. Every body is a beach body. The notion that we need to change ourselves to fit a seasonal mould perpetuates a cycle of self-criticism and dissatisfaction. Instead, let’s focus on the joy of being in the moment, feeling the sun on our skin and the sand between our toes.

The Perfect Body Myth

This toxic mindset extends beyond the beach. Some people believe there’s a "perfect body" for sex, and if you don’t have it, you should keep the lights off. Let’s dismantle this myth right now. Pleasure and sexual rights have nothing to do with the shape or size of your body. Every body deserves pleasure, and every person has the right to feel confident and loved in their skin.

Body Acceptance vs. Body Positivity

First, let's break down the difference between body acceptance and body positivity. Body acceptance is about recognising and accepting your body as it is without necessarily loving every aspect of it. It’s about making peace with yourself and letting go of unrealistic standards. On the other hand, body positivity goes a step further. It’s about celebrating your body, embracing all its features, and recognising that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.

However, with the surge in body positivity messaging, there can be an unintended pressure to always love and celebrate your body. For many, this feels overwhelming and even unattainable at times. It’s important to remember that it’s okay not always to love every part of your body. The journey to body positivity should start with body acceptance. This means beginning with small steps: acknowledging your body as it is and treating it with kindness.

Starting with acceptance allows you to build a foundation of self-compassion. Over time, this can evolve into body positivity, where you feel more comfortable celebrating your body. The key is to begin by being gentle with yourself and understanding that acceptance is the first and crucial step towards a more positive relationship with your body.

Building a Better Relationship with Your Body

It’s crucial to cultivate a positive relationship with your body, not just for your self-esteem but also for your overall well-being. Loving or at least accepting your body can significantly enhance your sex life. Confidence in your body can lead to more intimacy, better communication with your partner, and a more fulfilling sexual experience.

Simple Steps to Body Acceptance and Positivity

Mirror Exercises: Spend a few minutes each day looking at yourself in the mirror. Focus on the parts of your body that you appreciate. It might be your eyes, your smile, or even your strong legs. Acknowledge these features with kindness.

Affirmations: Positive affirmations can rewire your brain to think more positively about your body. Try affirmations like, "I am beautiful just as I am," or "My body deserves love and respect."

Self-Care: Treat your body with care and respect. This can be through nourishing food, regular movement that you enjoy, or pampering routines that make you feel good.

Surround Yourself with Positivity: Follow social media accounts and engage with content that promotes body positivity. Distance yourself from toxic influences that make you feel less than.